Learning to “Leave the Bone Alone”

I was reading an article in a very prestigious Jazz music magazine, and the quote from the article and a very famous jazz artist was………” these young guys, they can play the X%@& out the horn, they know all the modes, they know all the chords, they know how to manipulate everything. They can play high, they can play low, and they can play fast. They have all of these techniques – what they can do is amazing. But the only thing they can’t do is leave the bone alone.”

If you are a jazz musician, this translates into “know when to quit playing, shut it down and listen, and let the music and musician speak.”

When did you last need to fill the silence during a tense discussion? How well did you fight the primal urge to fill in the blanks of every delayed, ponderous response? Did you want to provide all the answers and bark out some brilliance? I know I sure have!

Less is more!

Silence is better!

Asking more questions works… even though it seems like it takes foorreevvveerrrr.

Self-discovery is much more powerful and long-lasting than spouting out a list of solutions.

For me, a huge lesson learned the hard way. So color me humbled and energized about the next time I choose to listen patiently, coach, and mentor instead of telling.

Coach Dave

 

Dave Schoenbeck is a professional business and executive coach who translates complex business methods, processes, and strategies into actionable plans to dramatically improve financial results. Read more about Dave here.
Dave Schoenbeck

Dave Schoenbeck is a professional business and executive coach who translates complex business methods, processes, and strategies into actionable plans to dramatically improve financial results. Read more about Dave here.

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