You might think avoiding conflict as much as possible is doing your coworkers a favor, but the opposite is true. Bottling up your emotions when dealing with difficult people or behaviors will only lead to increased frustration, degradation of your working relationship, and breakdowns in communication.
Fear of conflict in the workplace only leads to more tension. Instead, healthily approaching conflict can achieve better outcomes, strengthen relationships, and improve the workplace environment. The key to embracing conflict and maximizing its potential is effectively learning to deal with difficult people.
I’ve found two excellent books on dealing with difficult people: Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People by Renee Evenson and Can We Talk? by Roberta Chinsky Matuson.
In Can We Talk? Matuson lays out seven principles for approaching difficult conversations. These are tactics to remember to ensure that difficult conversations remain on the rails. They are as follows:
In Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People, Evenson takes this further by envisioning 60+ situations and providing over 325 words and phrases you can incorporate into a script for these tough talks.
For all of these conversations, there are five steps that Evenson recommends you follow to ensure the best outcome. First, here is a foolproof strategy for how to deal with difficult people:
By following these steps, avoiding strong emotions, and remaining non-accusatory in your words and tone, you can resolve workplace conflicts and grow closer to coworkers you’ve had strained relationships with.
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Coach Dave
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